The Importance of Date Day


I know…I cringe too when I hear couples say, “I can’t, it’s date night,” or they tag photos on Instagram with the hashtag #DateNight or #OutWithMyBae. And then I remember, I am also a lovey-dubby offender. During the weekdays, quality time with my husband is limited. Hell, quality time with my dogs is limited and I do look forward to those Friday night dinners I so lovingly plan at home or those days spent doing something fun, something new together. Beginning in February, Matt and I naturally started to plan mini adventures in New York City on Saturdays. A routine started to form, something we hadn’t done in our seven years together and you know what, “it wasn’t boring.” We call Saturdays our date-day. With the limited time we have together during the week, date-day gives us an opportunity to reconnect. After a warrior class at Soul Cycle, we head to our favorite coffee shop in Williamsburg and every week, Matt and I alternate in planning date-day. It doesn’t have to be expensive. It just has to be thoughtful.

Here are some activities you can consider for a date-day, datenight, time alone, #OutWithMyBae, or with friends.

#1: Record shopping at A1 Records

So we just bought a turntable back in January and are taking our time with building a record collection. While the staff at A1 Records loves vinyl, they are not pretentious. They love answering questions and helping you filter through their vast inventory.

#2: Steak Dinner at Wolfgang’s Steakhouse

This was Matt’s idea for one night. It wasn’t cheap, but it was worth it. The building itself has some significance to us, as it was designed by the same architect that designed the space where we were married. The food and the service are impeccable.

#3: A 9pm Show at UCB

Another one of Matt’s ideas. He had never seen a show at the Chelsea location, while in college, I basically lived there. Nevertheless, it was inspiring to watch such a talented cast build an entertaining show on the fly.

#4: Mani/Pedi

Fact: men love pedicures. Fact: most men won’t plan to get one on their own. Getting a mani/pedi is relatively inexpensive in New York and a nice way to feel pampered. Matt won’t paint his nails, although one day I may get him to wear some black polish.

#5: Brunch at Butcher’s Daughter

Try one of the juices or toasts. A guilt free brunch after a workout always makes me feel like I’ve beat the system.

#6: Wine Shopping/Browsing/Tasting at Astor Wines

I love the selection here and how knowledgeable the staff is. Plus they always have my favorite Long Island rose in stock.

#7: Taking in Some Sports at Linen Hall

Or any sports bars. We both share a love of basketball and watching March Madness has been a great way to bond.

#8: Chocolate Tasting at Mast Brothers 

You can smell the chocolate from about a block away. We picked up a couple of bars to have on hand when needing to indulge a chocolate craving.


Cotton Anniversary

Today, Matt and I will be celebrating our cotton anniversary. In the first year of our marriage, we were both trying to mimic what many deem as responsible adult behavior. It led to frustration and petty arguments. The first year of marriage was tough. Finally we realized that just because we were married, didn’t mean we had to become Mr. and Mrs. Cleaver. We’ve since let go of the need to fulfill societal expectations of what a responsible couple looks like and have just been having fun enjoying one another’s company. Our current approach to marriage works for us, for now, but we understand relationships are malleable creatures and therefore view a steady line of communication as our number one tool to personal success.