The Importance of Date Day

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I know…I cringe too when I hear couples say, “I can’t, it’s date night,” or they tag photos on Instagram with the hashtag #DateNight or #OutWithMyBae. And then I remember, I am also a lovey-dubby offender. During the weekdays, quality time with my husband is limited. Hell, quality time with my dogs is limited and I do look forward to those Friday night dinners I so lovingly plan at home or those days spent doing something fun, something new together. Beginning in February, Matt and I naturally started to plan mini adventures in New York City on Saturdays. A routine started to form, something we hadn’t done in our seven years together and you know what, “it wasn’t boring.” We call Saturdays our date-day. With the limited time we have together during the week, date-day gives us an opportunity to reconnect. After a warrior class at Soul Cycle, we head to our favorite coffee shop in Williamsburg and every week, Matt and I alternate in planning date-day. It doesn’t have to be expensive. It just has to be thoughtful.

Here are some activities you can consider for a date-day, datenight, time alone, #OutWithMyBae, or with friends.

#1: Record shopping at A1 Records

So we just bought a turntable back in January and are taking our time with building a record collection. While the staff at A1 Records loves vinyl, they are not pretentious. They love answering questions and helping you filter through their vast inventory.

#2: Steak Dinner at Wolfgang’s Steakhouse

This was Matt’s idea for one night. It wasn’t cheap, but it was worth it. The building itself has some significance to us, as it was designed by the same architect that designed the space where we were married. The food and the service are impeccable.

#3: A 9pm Show at UCB

Another one of Matt’s ideas. He had never seen a show at the Chelsea location, while in college, I basically lived there. Nevertheless, it was inspiring to watch such a talented cast build an entertaining show on the fly.

#4: Mani/Pedi

Fact: men love pedicures. Fact: most men won’t plan to get one on their own. Getting a mani/pedi is relatively inexpensive in New York and a nice way to feel pampered. Matt won’t paint his nails, although one day I may get him to wear some black polish.

#5: Brunch at Butcher’s Daughter

Try one of the juices or toasts. A guilt free brunch after a workout always makes me feel like I’ve beat the system.

#6: Wine Shopping/Browsing/Tasting at Astor Wines

I love the selection here and how knowledgeable the staff is. Plus they always have my favorite Long Island rose in stock.

#7: Taking in Some Sports at Linen Hall

Or any sports bars. We both share a love of basketball and watching March Madness has been a great way to bond.

#8: Chocolate Tasting at Mast Brothers 

You can smell the chocolate from about a block away. We picked up a couple of bars to have on hand when needing to indulge a chocolate craving.

Labor Day Weekend in NYC

IMG_0223A photo from Labor Day Weekend 2011 right after Matt asked me to marry him.

While it would be awesome to get away to Shelter Island or the Catskills this weekend, we’ve traveled quite a bit this summer and have decided to stay-cation in our hometown of New York City. Here are some things I/we plan on doing this weekend.

Finally seeing the Jeff Koons exhibit at the Whitney Museum.

Biking to Oysters at Mars and then taking in some multimedia culture at the Museum of the Moving Image.

Watching the Georgia vs Clemson game at this bar.

Having a late night dinner at Commerce as a reward for watching the complete football game.

Lobster Rolls, beers and sun at Rockaway Beach.

Boyhood

I’d like to consider myself a discerning movie buff but to be honest I approach celebrity driven romantic comedies with the same enthusiasm as thought-provoking indie flicks. But when I read that director Richard Linklater, who also wrote “Boyhood,” filmed the main character Ellar Coltrane growing up on-screen as the character of Mason, for over twelve years, I knew it was a concept I had to see expressed.

Admittedly I was a little apprehensive about the film’s premise: following a boy around from elementary to high school; and also about the film’s length: three hours. The film does a great job of transcending whatever cultural background you come from and making the story relatable. While three hours might seem like a large indoor commitment, considering that we have few warm days left in New York City, the film is worth the journey in technological nostalgia that many of us millennials can enjoy.